For most of us, Mother’s Day brings thoughts of love and thankfulness for the mother who gave us life and raised us. For my sweet, gentle husband, Mother’s Day evokes a different set of emotions entirely.
Raised by a frustrated single mom who nursed a harem of hurts and anger toward her ex-husband, she regularly took that anger out on her children. Screaming verbal abuse, slapping, kicking; she shattered childhood innocence and trampled their precious souls. Little did she know that physical scars may heal, but mental and emotional scars last a lifetime.
Experts tell us that breaking the cycle of abuse is extremely difficult. I am here to tell you that with God’s help and your determination, it can be done. You are not destined to repeat the mistakes of your parents.
My husband and his siblings grew up to be productive citizens and college graduates with successful careers. That they survived and thrived is a testament to God’s grace and their determination to have a better life.
At a young age my husband purposed in his heart to become the kind of father that he never had. I have learned much from him about unconditional love and forgiveness. Our children’s lives were touched by a grace that he never experienced as a child. He broke the cycle of abuse and generations of our family will be different because of it.
God gave us two wonderful children to raise and my husband poured his life into them. He used their childhood as an opportunity to provide them with all the things he missed out on growing up. Oh, I don’t mean material things. I mean the love and security every child so desperately desires.
I write this to offer hope to those who have experienced childhood abuse. God loves you. You can break the cycle of abuse and change your life with God’s help. My husband wants me to tell you that God is good. Joel 2:25 says, “For God has restored the years the locust has eaten.”